Miss Manners: Husband says it’s normal for friend to invite unknowns to our place

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I have been having an argument for days now about something one of his friends did. We moved to a new apartment, and said friend has been here twice. Both times, he spent an hour or two with my husband, and then went outside to meet up with people he invited over. They do not actually come in, they just stay outside chatting, but it infuriates me that he is giving out our address to people whom 1. I do not know, and 2. we did not invite.

My husband says that where they are both from, it’s normal for people to do that, and it is not a big deal. I say it’s unsafe and also very rude.

This last time he was here, he also arrived three hours later than he said he would, at night. I find him a very rude guest, and we have agreed not to have him over anymore.

Do you think I am overreacting, since these people he randomly invites to my home stay outside and don’t stay for a long time?

GENTLE READER: Does this friend not have a home to go to? It seems odd to Miss Manners that he would otherwise invite people over to the outside of yours. In any case, she finds him an ill-mannered guest and your decision to cease inviting him a sound one.

If your husband wishes to continue the relationship, he can meet him outside another friend’s house.

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